So,
I’ve been thinking about my funeral – not when
it will be, but how it will
be. Specifically, I've been thinking
about the physical space (it must be
in a church and not a funeral home), the liturgy, and the music.
Many
people don’t know I was baptized and confirmed in a Lutheran church. When my
family moved to Florida in 1980 and I started working as a church musician, I
never had any opportunities to be in a Lutheran setting. It was when I started working for the Episcopalians
that I rediscovered my love for the cycle of the church year and liturgical
expressions – but, coming to St. Mark’s was like coming home. As a result, I sometimes call myself a Lutheran
with an Episcopalian aesthetic.
About
the space:
I’ve always loved the Episcopal tradition of changing the paraments to white
for a funeral, even when that funeral is in Advent or Lent. I hope the Pastor will think that is okay and
that the altar guild won’t object. I
plan to be cremated and request that the front of the church be generously
adorned with icons and votive candles. I have a request for flowers: white
plumeria. The plumeria is a flower from
my childhood and it always makes me happy to see one. A single lei would be
lovely. Individual blossoms amongst the icons and candles would also be nice. (The
flowers will have to be ordered from Hawaii or somewhere else.)
Also,
my service draws greatly from Evening Prayer so I request that it be held at
6:00 p.m. on a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday evening.
The
stage is set – now what about the music and liturgy?
First,
the music:
Please include at least one “big”
organ piece. Two of my favorites are Walford Davies’ “Solemn Melody” and G. T.
Thalben-Ball’s “Elegy.” Any Bach Prelude
and Fugue or other Bach piece would be appreciated. Don’t be afraid to play it LOUDLY.
Choral Music Suggestions: “Blessed” by Paul Weber, “God’s Son Has Made Me Free”
by Grieg, “God Me in My Head” as set by John Rutter or Andrew Carter, anything
readily in the choir’s repertoire that would be suitable.
Other voluntaries should be based
on traditional Lutheran hymns – that is hymns with texts by Lutheran composers.
Anything from “Orgelbuchlein,” and arrangements by living composers is
fine. Please include at least one
Scandinavian hymn – as long as it’s not “How Great Thou Art.”
The last piece should be the
choral setting (Oregon Catholic Press, publisher) of the assembly hymn, “Holy Darkness” by
Dan Schutte. The refrain should be printed for the assembly to sing. If it can
be accompanied by guitar, all the better, but piano is fine, too. (Some of my colleagues are shaking their
heads, but I love this piece and after all, it is MY funeral.)
If the Pastor feels the service
will be well attended, it should be advertised that thirty minutes of music
will precede the service. If the Pastor
thinks attendance will be minimal, then one big organ piece and “Holy Darkness”
will be sufficient music before the service.
Now,
for the service itself:
The
assembly stands. The Pastor (or an acolyte) carries a large lighted candle to
the front. The following dialogue is
sung according to the tone on page 309 (Evening Prayer) in ELW.
At
the font:
I am the resurrection and the
life êž‹ saith the Lord;
he
that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet êž‹ shall he live;
and whosoever liveth and
believeth in me shall êž‹ never die.
From
the mid-point of the center aisle:
I know that my Re-êž‹deemer liveth,
and
that he shall stand at the latter day up-êž‹on the earth;
and that though this body shall
be destroyed, yet shall êž‹ I see God;
whom
I shall see for myself and mine eyes shall behold, and not êž‹ as a stranger.
From the front of
the church:
Blessed are the dead, who die êž‹ in the Lord;
even so saith the Spirit, for they rest
êž‹ from their labors.
After the candle has been set down, the
hymn is sung.
Hymn: The Day You Gave Us, Lord, Is Ended (ELW 569)
A short silence.
O Gracious Light (S 59 in the
Hymnal 1982)
This
may be sung by a soloist or the choir, unaccompanied.
Prayer of the Day – the first prayer
at the top of page 271 in ELW.
Psalm 121
My
preference is for a soloist to sing “A Simple Song” from Leonard Bernstein’s
“Mass.” If that is not possible, any musical version will do. It can be sung by
the choir, or sung by the choir and the assembly. It should not be simply read.
Old Testament Reading TBD
New Testament Reading TBD
Gospel Acclamation: All Who Believe and Are Baptized (ELW 442)
Gospel Reading TBD
No
“sharing” from the assembly. I hope they will do that privately.
Use
the hymns I have chosen as the basis for a sermon about the hope of the
resurrection. Note that this service
includes portions of the Evening Prayer service as found in ELW and in the
Hymnal 1982. The Pastor may wish to say
that I sometimes called myself “a Lutheran with an Episcopalian aesthetic.”
That will explain a lot about this service.
Sermon
Hymn of the Day: Abide With Me (ELW 629)
Substitute
this text for the last stanza. It more
accurately reflects my own beliefs about what happens when we die. This stanza was written by me. That should be
noted in the bulletin.
Hold,
Lord, thy cross before my closing eyes.
Call
me by name, and bring me to your side.
When
morning breaks, salvation shall I see.
Till
then, O Lord, let me abide in thee.
Creed
Prayers of Intercession
Communion
Communion Hymns
O
Sacred Head, Now Wounded (ELW
351) If it can be done well, stanza 3 should be sung a capella in four-part
harmony.
Lord,
Thee I Love With All My Heart (ELW
750) For
both hymns, please sing all of the stanzas – even if communion has been served
to everybody by the middle of the second stanza of the first hymn.
The
rest of the service follows as in ELW.
Sending Hymn: Love Divine, All Loves Excelling (ELW 631)
I’ve
done it. Not only have I written my
wishes down, but I’ve put them in cyberspace for everyone to see. I may change my mind about some of these
things as time goes by. Hopefully, I
have plenty of time to make changes!
I
don’t know how these things work.
Probably I will have no idea if these wishes are carried out. If they are, this is my last chance to share
my faith. It will be my chance to say
that death is not the end. It is like going to sleep in God’s care and keeping
while we wait for the resurrection.
“Even
at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.”
The top two photos are from Wikipedia.
Update on 1/26/2019
These are the scripture readings I have chosen:
Revelation 7:9-17
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
Luke 2:25-32